Sometimes you just need to get things off your chest. I’ve been hurt a lot in my past relationships, often because I find myself giving 110% while receiving way less than that back. By nature, I am a giving and caring person and can sometimes lead others to take advantage of my love. As you may or may not know, I went through a broken engagement in 2016 that sent me on a tailspin. I had never encountered such a manipulative or narcissistic person before. That situation taught me many tough lessons and although I have moved on, I feel these words may help someone else who may be in the same situation. Never lose yourself for someone else, the right person will love & accept ALL things about you.
To the Man I Once Loved,
Congratulations on your new marriage! I’m glad you finally found the happiness you were so desperately seeking. Is your life complete now?
I would tell you how things are going with me but we both know, you could care less. As a matter of fact, I am happier than I have ever been. I’ve created a wonderful life for myself and am truly blessed. You never really cared though about my interests, if it didn’t involve your passions, hobbies or all the attention, you just simply didn’t care. Perhaps not caring is what made it so easy for you in the end.
I was in love with you, with us. I was committed to you and our family. I was always supportive of you and your ventures, no matter how ridiculous others thought they were. I was your number 1 fan. I believe my caring and loving you so much was part of my most attractive qualities. Because the minute you felt threatened, when I stopped allowing you to control me and I began to question your actions, you changed as a person. You became more harsh, less attentive and sought female companionship in other venues. You became the man I once loved. I could go on and on about how you changed, but you already know and I already know and that’s all that matters.
You know how it affected us and what the outcome was.
This isn’t a blame game letter, I just want you to know that I forgive you. I have a lot to thank you for. Thank you for allowing me to be free again. Thank you for allowing me to find my song again. Thank you for allowing me to find the drive and determination to make my life better. Thank you for showing me strength I never knew I had. Thank you for showing me how a man, who loves me, shouldn’t treat me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
To the man I once loved, I forgive you. I forgive you for the pain, hurt, anger, sadness and everything you brought into my life that still creeps into my heart at times. I forgive you for all the lies you told on me and I forgive you for the money you stole from me, without a single ounce of remorse. I forgive you for your betrayal. I forgive you for never caring. I forgive you for putting me in the position to even write you this letter. And most importantly, I forgive you for becoming the man I once loved.
The woman who once loved you