My Top 5 Happy Steps

  1. Stay away from negative people
  2. Stop caring what people think
  3. Don’t be jealous
  4. Accept what cannot be changed
  5. Learn how to forgive and forget

Negative people. We all know someone who doesn’t have a nice word to say about anything. They are quick to point out the fault of others but totally disregard their own. Don’t waste your time with those types, it simply isn’t worth it. Negative people have a problem for every situation and don’t care to share it.

If you can’t completely ignore these people then limit your time or counteract their toxic statements with something good.  I truly feel those types of people aren’t happy with themselves. Positivity comes from within and if you aren’t happy with yourself then you definitely can’t be happy around others. Have patience and understanding when dealing with those types by realizing that it’s something deeper than what’s on the surface. However, don’t allow it to bring you down.

Stop caring how others feel about or view you. Just stop feeling like you have to fit in or please others. Make yourself happy first and foremost. At one point, we all want to fit in with the crowd or I did. I felt if I was like everyone else then more people would like me. The truth is, the more I acted like others the more I stopped liking myself.

It’s a cookie cutter society we live in, always pushing us to look and act the same. IGNORE that BS! Seriously, ignore it. It’s okay to not be part of the crowd and to stand out. Do your own thing regardless of how many people roll their eyes at you. Embrace that you are different and brave enough to show it. In a world full of pink crayons, be the white one!

Jealously is a funny thing. We want what others have but we don’t want to work for it. Sure some people have an easier life than others but be happy with what you have. Blowing out someone else’s candle, doesn’t make yours shine any brighter. Count your blessings and stop comparing your life to others, you don’t know what they’ve been through to get where they are.

Finding the courage to let go of what cannot be changed is one of the hardest things a person has to do. We can wish all we want for things to be different but more often than not, they can’t be. Accept it and move on. You can struggle with what it is…blaming yourself or others but truth be told, it’s just the reality of life.

Forgiving and forgetting. Those two words have so much behind them. Some people really truly never learn how to forgive others and they go through life carrying the hurt and anger with them, unable to let go and move on. Forgiving someone who hurt you deeply, releases you and allows your heart to heal. We’ve all suffered in love and friendships, we’ve been cheated on and betrayed by individuals we thought would never hurt us and it’s hard. Hard to forget the pain and hurt but you cannot dwell on it and allow life to pass you by.

You deserve love and happiness in your life. You deserve to be free from the pain. Believe you deserve it all. Don’t lump everyone together, not everyone is out to break you or take from you. Good people still exist, those who are kind, generous, and loving. Give the future a chance.

Change doesn’t happen overnight but it can happen when you allow it to. Keep an open mind and an open heart. Don’t allow anyone to take the goodness from you. I know it’s easier said then done but don’t give up. Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing can make you happy until you choose to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you, it will come from YOU. Choose happy my friends.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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